No one likes the feelings that accompany being rejected. Yet, no one is ever completely immune to getting rejected at some point in life.
Rejection can come in a relationship with a family member or a significant other. It can come in the form of being turned down for a promotion or an important job. It can come after being turned down for a position on a team or for a college education.
On the surface, rejection can cause a person to feel sad or anxious. One rejection can cause a person to think twice about attempting whatever it was that they got rejected at again. When the emotional sensations of rejection get pushed aside, a person’s subconscious can absorb those feelings. This can cause a person to have a subconscious fear of rejection.
A person could feel so strongly about avoiding rejection on the job that they quit working altogether. Or, they may feel that getting rejected to a particular school was so distressing that, without really knowing why, they decide to take to working at a menial job rather than pursuing an educational path which could provide them so many better opportunities in life.
For children who got rejected by parents, the subconscious damage may run a lot deeper. Yet, there is hope for anyone dealing with a deep-seated fear of rejection.
The subconscious can be reprogrammed to try and build your own sense of self-worth and confidence. This is the first step to healing from a debilitating fear of rejection.
It will take time and patience, but the process is relatively simple. Tell yourself, with conviction, that you are worth having good things happen to you. Understand that everyone, even successful people, gets rejected at times. Learn from your mistakes and try again. You will eventually overcome your fears and succeed.